Anonymous said: Reading your blog is like clutching my bed as vertigo hits, struggling to avoid being flung off as the universe distorts around me and tries to spit me out. But in a good way.
reading this message is like getting a card in the mail when it’s not a holiday and then it has sort of a weird premise on the cover so you’re kind of starting to wonder if you need to be careful for anthrax but your curiosity gets the better of you (in spite of having watched Osmosis Jones) and you open it to find a pleasant goofy punchline at the end
why thx u anon <3
PSA: if you send me fanmail and i don’t respond to it directly there is a 110% chance i’m too proud of it to let it go
walterstrawberrymilkshake said: I just got a weird message on my profile and I'm not sure how to respond. What would you say? "After a rigorously brief overview of your profile, I wanted to let you know I have already married and divorced you in my mind. Thanks for all the wonderful imaginary memories... you will always have a special place in my heart. Your ex-hubby, Herbie p.s. You can keep the beach house in Florida as long as I can have the dog and my CD's back.
hahaha oh wow, that’s such an overused copy/paste message. to call it ‘classic’ is a huuuuge understatement. i’ve seen this antique pop up on male-centric forums all the time, usually accompanied by the sentiment that “it’s so clever and random it’s BOUND to get a few responses!”
i mean there’s tons of factors that go into someone sending a message like this. copy/paste things are intrinsically revolting to me. something about the idea that i don’t stand out enough to this person to warrant the hot minute it takes to compose an original and genuine greeting, or maybe just the sheer cheapness of it. i find written expression really important in a partner. these kinds of things give me the vibe that they don’t really want to know you so much as they want a girlfriend. you know? just my beef with it, anyhow.
i would probably grab the dumbest, oldest copypasta i could think of and respond with that. because if they didn’t want to invest in a real message, you shouldn’t feel obligated to either. how about the whole transcription of the “Lots and Lots of Trains” DVD commercial? i think that’d do nicely. it’s a lot to put in a post so i’ll throw it under the cut if you want to try that.
thanks for reading (and for providing this long-sought after example of copypaste messages), and i hope this helps!
xandramae said: I actually really want to ask, if you get a message like "I know a daddy's girl when I see one." what do you say? I've gotten this message twice, both from guys who are way too old for me (but not even close to my dads age). To one guy I was just like "Ew, creepy, blocked" and the other guy I actually tried to have a conversation about why he thought it was appropriate and he was like "defensive must mean ur repressin sumthin", like what? Should I make them feel hella awkward? How?!
oh wow gross yeah, i would have no qualms fucking with someone like this. unsolicited weird-at-best advances are so bizarre and rude.
i feel like there are a lot of ways you could go with this, and it really depends on how you feel about it. i’m a tremendously vindictive bitch and if i feel i’ve been spared the most basic human decency then i’ll offer no quarter in return. i make it my sole objective to have them feel as stupid as possible. bust out the dictionary/thesaurus, wax poetic, compose a haiku for their receding hairline or a scathing couplet about how they’re old enough to be your grandpa. make them embarrassed to think they could’ve ever stepped to your unearthly science.
if that’s not your style (or you don’t have as much time to waste as yours truly) you could snap back with a one-liner. it’s not my specialty but you might try some of the following:
"I know a daddy’s girl when I see one."
- and i know a sex offender when i see one
- funny you should mention that, my dad works in computer forensics— what’s your ZIP code, romeo
- sorry, i’m homo sapiens sapiens, i don’t date outside my subspecies.
if you’re not super interested in engaging the slimeball, you could copy/paste something ridiculous, like Smash Mouth lyrics, or scripts from Samuel Beckett plays. a very minimal effort that definitely gets the point across that you can’t be bothered to give a tumbling fancy fuck about their unsavory solicitations.
i think the important part is that you walk away from the exchange knowing you’re infinitely better than they are. it’s wicked kinds of sucky out there sometimes and it’s not easy to shrug off every sloppy pass, but try to remember that you’re so much smarter, stronger, sharper, so much better than that crude rabble. however you reach that conclusion, be it a deftly-delivered dissertation on sexism or a simple click of the block button, makes no difference, so long as you’re hitting your stride on the exit.
i hope this helps, and thanks for reading dear <3
Anonymous said: Omfg I just found your blog , looooove it!!!!!
<3 you have excellent taste friend, keep that up
"Hey person just thought I’d let you know that I’m not cool with the fact that you’re transgender but I have a friend who is bye"
yea he mentioned having been accused by his friendgroup of being egotistical/arrogant so i assume he thinks himself some great catch. of course, he had to let me know how repellent that part of me is before i caught feelings and made things complicated— a good thing he did, too. i was swooning over some his spelling errors, and the cognitive dissonance in his questions section was giving me the vapors. /fans self.
i get an extra-special kick out of taking arrogant fuckers down some pegs so for me it’s nbd, i just feel bad for his questioning acquaintance having dickweeds like that around for ‘support’. not even being uninterested in trans women, that’s fine, just being a pompous turd is so abrasive and unhelpful to anyone christ